1. The “New Car Smell” of Love Fades In the beginning, your partner’s laugh, texts, even the way they chew seems magical. A year later? The same laugh can feel normal, or worse, irritating. That’s hedonic adaptation: your brain stops firing dopamine at the familiar, even if it’s […]
When you’ve been cheated on, there are a number of possible reactions. Some people cannot seem to release themselves from the imagery of their mate with another lover. Some people can’t stop wondering how they compare to the other person their mate chose to sleep with. Some can’t […]
What should a couple know before deciding to go to Couples Counseling? I believe every person in a couples relationship should find out the answers to these 10 questions: 1. Is my goal to repair this relationship? 2. Is my goal to end this relationship? 3. Do I […]
It’s Valentine’s Day and You’re Pissed.
You’re seeing couples all over the place…Hugging, holding hands, kissing–way too much.
You’ve fallen into a rut, and you are only now realzing it!
And you may even have started, almost unconsciously acting in a way that is guaranteed to be a Relationship Killer.
What’s a Relationship Killer?
A Relationship Killer is an attitude or behavior that is almost guaranteed to nuke your relationship to kingdom Come. It’s something you do or don’t do to show your partner that they aren’t important, special or unique.
So let’s run through them..
And hey, if you want to bomb your relationship to hell, here’s the guide. Click on the picture above!
Has a therapist ever told you to give someone an ultimatum?
In this episode of Rational Animal we review an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and the buffoonery practiced by these 2 therapists–and its devastating consequences to Larry’s marriage. Check it out!
You just blew it.
You’ve ruined everything.
You lost the big financial deal.
Or you made a bad decision and you’ve lost the love of your life.
Or you said something rotten and lost an important relationship.
Or you did that compulsive behavior you promised you’d never do…You gambled, you over-ate, you over-sexed, you used that substance.
Or maybe you crashed the car.
Or you invested in a terrible stock.
As human beings we tend to overcompensate for errors and mistakes by committing self-torture.
The worst part of self blaming and shaming?
It actually makes us less likely to succeed at our goals.
So how do we get out of this mess?
Through the following 20 Rational Thinking and Behavioral Methods we can absolutely change our thoughts, feelings and behaviors!
Click the image above to read more…
The social and emotional reinforcement of Social Media and electronic communication is changing couple’s interactions and communication. In fact, it’s leading many to interact electronically before, during and after connecting with their dates and mates.
In my private practice as a licensed psychotherapist and couples therapist I see the daily effects of Social Media use on communication, both good and bad. Here are some of the pitfalls and solutions of Electronic and Social Media (cel phones,laptops,desktops, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat) in Coupledom:
