Tag: compassion

20 Ways to Forgive Yourself, Even When You Have Made A Huge Mistake

You just blew it.
You’ve ruined everything.
You lost the big financial deal.
Or you made a bad decision and you’ve lost the love of your life.
Or you said something rotten and lost an important relationship.
Or you did that compulsive behavior you promised you’d never do…You gambled, you over-ate, you over-sexed, you used that substance.
Or maybe you crashed the car.
Or you invested in a terrible stock.

As human beings we tend to overcompensate for errors and mistakes by committing self-torture.

The worst part of self blaming and shaming?
It actually makes us less likely to succeed at our goals.

So how do we get out of this mess?

Through the following 20 Rational Thinking and Behavioral Methods we can absolutely change our thoughts, feelings and behaviors!

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Welcome to the RATIONAL ANIMAL

In my over 25 years as a psychotherapist and life coach, I’ve discovered that quite often, individuals will have lovely, articulate, accurate, empathic advice for their friends. They show compassion, forgiveness, faith, hope and rationality when guiding or counseling their friends.
However, I noticed those same individuals treating themselves far, far differently. Often these same people will turn on themselves in the most vicious, uncompromising manner. They have an ongoing internal (and sometimes, external) dialogue which is unforgiving, innacurate, overgeneralizing, negative, doomsaying, hopeless and irrational.
I also realized that when they looked at their lives from the ‘Best Friend’ position, they were able to see themselves differently.

And that’s what I’m hoping the Rational Animal Blog will be able to do for you as well.

Beause, let’s face it. You are all you’ve got.