It’s Valentine’s Day and You’re Pissed.
You’re seeing couples all over the place…Hugging, holding hands, kissing–way too much.
You’ve fallen into a rut, and you are only now realzing it!
And you may even have started, almost unconsciously acting in a way that is guaranteed to be a Relationship Killer.
What’s a Relationship Killer?
A Relationship Killer is an attitude or behavior that is almost guaranteed to nuke your relationship to kingdom Come. It’s something you do or don’t do to show your partner that they aren’t important, special or unique.
So let’s run through them..
And hey, if you want to bomb your relationship to hell, here’s the guide. Click on the picture above!
Are You in Valentine’s Day Relationship Burnout?
Valentine’s Day looms near…
You look across the dinner table.
And there they are. Your spouse. Your live-in partner.
You study their face and their mannerisms.
No feelings. No passion. No…spark.
Let’s face it.
It’s nearly Valentine’s Day and you’re in Relationship Burnout.
Good News! There is a way out. In fact, there are 8 ways to avoid Relationship Burnout and possibly to bring your relationship back from the dead.
You just blew it.
You’ve ruined everything.
You lost the big financial deal.
Or you made a bad decision and you’ve lost the love of your life.
Or you said something rotten and lost an important relationship.
Or you did that compulsive behavior you promised you’d never do…You gambled, you over-ate, you over-sexed, you used that substance.
Or maybe you crashed the car.
Or you invested in a terrible stock.
As human beings we tend to overcompensate for errors and mistakes by committing self-torture.
The worst part of self blaming and shaming?
It actually makes us less likely to succeed at our goals.
So how do we get out of this mess?
Through the following 20 Rational Thinking and Behavioral Methods we can absolutely change our thoughts, feelings and behaviors!
Click the image above to read more…
In my over 25 years as a psychotherapist and life coach, I’ve discovered that quite often, individuals will have lovely, articulate, accurate, empathic advice for their friends. They show compassion, forgiveness, faith, hope and rationality when guiding or counseling their friends.
However, I noticed those same individuals treating themselves far, far differently. Often these same people will turn on themselves in the most vicious, uncompromising manner. They have an ongoing internal (and sometimes, external) dialogue which is unforgiving, innacurate, overgeneralizing, negative, doomsaying, hopeless and irrational.
I also realized that when they looked at their lives from the ‘Best Friend’ position, they were able to see themselves differently.
And that’s what I’m hoping the Rational Animal Blog will be able to do for you as well.
Beause, let’s face it. You are all you’ve got.