Do you feel you wasted your time over the last year? Its the beginning of a New Year. If you’re like most people, you’ve taken a few moments (before drinking yourself into a NYE Revelers Oblivion) to pause and look back on your accomplishments over the last year. Perhaps you can look back with pride at a job well done, at actions taken to advance your career, nurture your relationships, gain new skills, or invest in your future.
But for many, reviewing the last year leaves them cold. As they look back, they realize “What the hell did I do with my time? Where did that year go? I’m not signficantly closer to my dreams, goals or aspirations. How did I get into this position?
Part of the problem is a lack of awareness of TIME–and with that lack comes a poor use of that precious resource.
Life Coach Ross Grossman, MA,LMFT assists you with tips and techniques to manage your time and your life.
Hopelessness feels like whatever is happening in your life that is negative, whatever unfortunate circumstances you’ve suffered or are suffering, will never end. Hopelessness feels like a ‘bad trip’ on drugs–time seems to stand still, this moment feels like forever, and you’re unable to see any light, of hope, in the darkness. It feels like defeat; like you are in a game that you can never win and are predestined to lose. It can feel like a curse or a fate.
Circumstances, People, Places, and Things do not cause hopelessness. Hopelessness is a mental construct. And that construct can be deconstructed and RE-constructed to achieve happiness.
In my over 25 years as a psychotherapist and life coach, I’ve discovered that quite often, individuals will have lovely, articulate, accurate, empathic advice for their friends. They show compassion, forgiveness, faith, hope and rationality when guiding or counseling their friends.
However, I noticed those same individuals treating themselves far, far differently. Often these same people will turn on themselves in the most vicious, uncompromising manner. They have an ongoing internal (and sometimes, external) dialogue which is unforgiving, innacurate, overgeneralizing, negative, doomsaying, hopeless and irrational.
I also realized that when they looked at their lives from the ‘Best Friend’ position, they were able to see themselves differently.
And that’s what I’m hoping the Rational Animal Blog will be able to do for you as well.
Beause, let’s face it. You are all you’ve got.